If you asked most people they will tell you society has progressed and that in the grand scheme of things we are all so much better off than people were in the good old days. An example of social progression is high tech communication. I am the first to admit that because of email, Facebook, Twitter, etc, I am able to keep in touch with the people I love. Also, let’s face it where would we be without cell phones. Given these advances in innovation, openness to accept all races, religions and ways of life equally, you would think there would be nothing to complain about. Wrong!
When I write, it is apparent I am opinionated. I used to believe that fiction would be my favorite topic to pen, but more recently I find myself taking the opportunity to stand on a literary soapbox. My current ill will is toward absentee parents. I have a nephew who is currently fighting for his sanity and his life. There are so many “left behind” children born to a generation of narcissists and I fear it is getting worse.
In America we enjoy the freedoms of liberty. The pursuit of happiness without persecution or interference from unwanted militant forces, is our right given by God and the men and women who fight for this great nation. My problem is that we have taken advantage of the free will bestowed upon us to the point that we no longer understand the true meaning of responsibility.
As a thirty-eight year old unmarried man with no children, the world is my oyster. My decisions and pursuits can only harm me. My accountability is to myself, especially if my actions do not threaten humanity or break laws. This gives me the right to say I made this choice. I chose individual freedom and responsibility for only myself. The decisions I make are none of anyone’s business. However, when a person makes the decision to give life to another being…a child, they give up the right to place themselves number one. I don’t understand men and women who bring children into this life and then refuse to care for them, support them financially, sacrifice their own happiness, etc. I applaud the parents I know who place their children’s needs above their own; however, there are too many “Moms “ and “Dads” out there who are nothing more than sperm and egg donors.
I see grandparents from the generation before ours taking on the role of parent because recent generations want to “live their own life.” God have mercy on those who abandon their children for the sake of pursuing their own personal joy. Futile attempts at second childhoods and social lives that can’t be interrupted by the rearing of their own offspring.
I have been called out before by friends who say to me “you don’t know what it is like to be a parent.” I may not, but I know what it is like to be abandoned by a biological parent. I can relate to the empty feeling that a child who must rely on grandparents, aunts and uncles, and others to feel the void left by selfish and never maturing sperm and egg donors.
All children have special needs. The most important thing a child has the right to is a fresh and safe start in life. A child deserves to grow up with love, support, and yes, discipline from both parents. For those of you who love your children unconditionally and place their needs above your own, many stars you will find in your crown. For those of you who place your own needs above your child, God have mercy on you. You are wasting something that you will never get back. Shame on us as a society when we allow ignoramuses to be rewarded with high tax returns, discounted tuition, food stamps, low rent, and welfare in the name of the very children they neglect! For shame!
It’s not passing judgment when we are simply stating the facts. And I digress….
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